I came to Jude suffering a combination of depression, anxiety and obsessive thoughts which had developed through high school bullying. Add into the mix a 10 year addiction to telephone sex which I’d been unable to break. I’d seen psychologists and a psychiatrist, who had failed to address the issues. Jude used a unique combination of psychological techniques, accountability and in-depth counselling which have worked for me. Twenty months have now passed since I’ve made one of those $35 phone calls….(Ray)
Sexual addiction can be described as a preoccupation with sex or obsessive thoughts of sex. Individuals who struggle with sexual addiction spend enormous amounts of time engaging in sexual activity in spite of negative social, occupational and relational consequences. Compulsive masturbation, exhibitionism, voyeurism, use of prostitutes, multiple sexual partners, phone sex and compulsive use of porn are some forms of sexual addiction.
One of the most common expressions of sexual addiction is the compulsive use of internet porn, which is characterised by obsessive viewing, reading, and thinking about pornography and sexual themes to the detriment of other areas of one’s life. It is believed that internet porn is more addictive than ordinary porn because of its wide availability, explicit nature and the privacy online viewing offers.
If you feel your sexual behaviour and thinking is affecting your life, work and relationships then you might want to consider seeking help.
Quick Self Test
Try out the following simple test.
- Do you fantasize or think about sex to the point of distraction?
- Has visiting porn sites on the Internet become a habit for you?
- Do you regularly use sexually oriented chat rooms on the Internet?
- Is masturbation something you do frequently?
- Have you vowed to get rid of your porn collection, actually got rid of it only to start collecting porn again?
- Do you find phone sex an attractive option?
- Do you visit brothels for sex?
- Have any of your sex partners ever been worried about the amount or type of sex that you want?
- Have you had a sexual affair with anyone outside your marriage?
- Has porn caused you to live a secret life that your partner doesn’t know about?
- Do you feel helpless or depressed as a result of your sexual behaviour?
- Has your sexual behaviour caused you to think about seeking professional help?
- Has your sexual behaviour become more compulsive and uncontrollable?
If you have answered YES to some or all of the statements above you might want to consider seeking help for sex/porn addiction.
Jude Morris at Cai Alpha Counselling is a qualified and experienced counsellor who has been practicing in the Canberra region for several years. Jude holds a Master’s degree in Counselling, a Graduate Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy and is a Clinical member of the Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia (PACFA). Jude has helped several of his clients manage their unwanted sexual urges and behaviour by addressing underlying emotional issues that drive the addiction.
Session Times & Fees
Jude is available through the week during and after hours. In addition to face-to-face counselling, Jude also offers counselling over the telephone and through Skype. Each counselling session runs for an hour and is charged at $125/session.
Private Health Fund Rebates
Eligible members can now receive rebates through Medibank Private for counselling services offered by Cai Alpha. Call Medibank Private on 132 331 to verify your eligibility.
Cai Alpha Counselling Services is located in Harrison, fifteen minutes from Canberra City, three minutes from Gungahlin Town Centre and fifteen minutes from Belconnen.
Jude can be contacted via email at or via phone/SMS on 0428 477 432. He can also be reached on (02) 62554371. For more information check out www.caialphacounselling.com.au.